Anxious moments and thoughts that many of us have but do not know whom to ask: "I read that the clitoris is the most sensitive area of a woman's body but when I touch mine I don't get much pleasure. Is there something wrong with me?"

At first glance, this is a normal response. Let me first reassure you that there is nothing wrong with you - every women's body is different and we all respond differently as there is a wide range of physical responses that fall within the normal range. Undoubtedly, the clitoris is a very sensitive part of a woman's body with over 7000 nerve endings that can stimulate it. This article addresses the differences in clitoral stimulation sensation experienced among women.

When I touch my clitoris I don't get much pleasure

We are individuals and we respond differently. Some women experience pleasurable sensations when their clitoris is rubbed, licked or pressed. While for some women this is a natural response, there are others who spend months and years experimenting with masturbation and self-exploration techniques to get to the point where they can have an orgasm through clitoral stimulation. There is another class of women who do not enjoy direct contact as their clitoris is either too sensitive or they just prefer G-Spot orgasms over clitoral orgasms. To state that clitoral stimulation automatically causes a woman to orgasm while not being incorrect would also not be accurate. Thus, this very simplistic approach is best avoided as there are no wrong answers and however you find pleasure is great.

What you can do to achieve clitoral orgasms

You are already on the path to achieve clitoral orgasm as you know what you want and have taken the most important step of reading this article. The first thing to do is accepting that you desire clitoral stimulation and realise that you find some satisfaction in touching your clitoris. So what you need is to getting to know yourself and how your clitoris responds to touch. This can be achieved by starting with masturbation. It would be best if you can involve your partner - this can happen if you have created an atmosphere of trust and exploration.

What you want to discover is what you like and how your clitoris responds to touch. So begin your experimentation by relaxing and doing what you need to do to become aroused and interested in sex. Start by touching your vagina and start experimenting with different pressures, angles and strokes. Also try inserting your fingers into your vagina while simultaneously stimulating your clitoris. This can also be achieved through usage of Sex toys as they can provide a little extra stimulation. Your goal is get to know your clitoris and how it responds to touch. Be aware of what areas are pleasing to you, what kind of touch your clitoris responds to and what techniques you enjoy. It may well be a specific way of rubbing, squeezing, pinching or pulling that turns you on.

What you need to do is experiment and discover yourself - this may take some time but with time you would be able to cultivate a technique or routine that works for you. Just go with what works for you and continue your experimentation to get to the point of achieving a clitoral orgasm.

A point to be borne in mind is that not all women achieve clitoral orgasms. There are many who experience orgasms only through G-Spot stimulation - this could either be achieved manually or with a sex toy. The satisfaction and pleasure experienced by these women is no less than that experienced by women who have clitoral orgasms. There are certain physiological differences between these two types of orgasms. The scientific community as well as those women that have experienced both describe G-Spot orgasms by using words like "deep", "relaxing" and "powerful", while clitoral orgasms are described as "intense", "rapid" and "cerebral". There are women who are lucky enough to experience both types of orgasm, but with time and experience all women tend to gravitate towards one or the other. Once again, like in most debates - there is no answer to this one. What is important is that any orgasm is a good orgasm and any woman can either work to achieve one or refine their ability to have one. What you want is pleasure and a little exploration and experimentation would take you there for sure.