A question that comes up surprisingly is "What is the best way to introduce or bring up the topic of sex toys with my boyfriend who hasn't used sex toys before and I would like to use one with him?"

There can be a variety of situations here. People whose partners have not used a sex toy before may find that their partners are receptive to the idea of experimentation, but there may be others who may not welcome the idea of using a sex toy. All the same we have a few ideas and recommendations that we will share with you, which we believe will increase the chance that your partner will welcome the idea of sharing a sex toy with you. After reading this topic if you have any further questions or find that there is an issue that we didn't address, please let us know!

Communication is the key

Generally one does not face any problem in introducing a sex toy into a relationship as most of the people would know the attitude of their partners. Most of us would know if our partners would be willing to try such a sex toy or not. With the help of honesty and frankness and open communication you will be able to enjoy new experiences with your partner.

First of all let me congratulate you on your idea of introducing sex toys into your relationship as it is a sure way to keep your sex lives exciting and always new, as many couples have already found out.

You may be in a situation where you are not sure of how your partner will react to the idea of using a sex toy because you may have never talked with them about using or bringing in sex toys into your relationship. You may also recall that when ever the topic of sex toys came up how they brushed off or changed the topic. That may be the reason why you are unsure of bringing in something new and radical like a sex toy into your relationship and bedroom.

Your partner will be willing to experiment with the sex toys with you unless they really have an aversion to them. The best policy here would be to be honest and open with them. You will need to bring up the subject in an open and positive way and the golden rule like in all relationships is “Communication is the best way to prevent any misunderstandings or hurt feelings”. Start off by asking if they've ever thought about using a sex toy. Surprising your partner with your new sex toy might be fine, but if you're unsure how they'll react, it might just be a good idea to bring up this discussion before you buy the sex toy to avoid any misunderstanding. Here you will have to use your judgment.

Work Together

When you are sure that your partner is ready to try the sex toy with you then you can start by browsing sex toy catalogs with them. You must explore the various categories and types that are available and see what interests both you and your partner. You can begin your search by going through some of the online catalogs or even some print catalogs that are available. It can be more intimate and interesting to browse through these catalogs in the privacy of your bedroom rather than dragging your partner to some sex toy store, for at this stage your partner is an uninitiated sex toy user and it may be stressful for him to visit an unfamiliar and intimidating sex toy store. Once you have gone through the catalogs and are somewhat sure of what your and your partner’s preference for the sex toys is and you are sure what you both want to try together, you will be able to decide on which sex toy to purchase.

Remember that the idea of using a sex toy with your partner is mutual satisfaction and enjoyment. But if you find something your partner hates, then it would be best if you used that sex toy by yourself and may as well find something that will give both you and your partner satisfaction. So the catch word here is “Work together” for mutual satisfaction in the beginning and you are sure to enjoy smooth sailing in the future.